CORONA (CBSLA.com) — A mother who was forced to pay spousal support to the ex-husband who was convicted of raping her daughter is speaking out to CBS2.
“Every time I wrote that check, I cried because I felt like I was paying the man that raped my daughter,” Carol Abar told CBS2′s Andrea Fujii.
Carol married Ed Abar in 1991, when her daughter, who wishes to remain unidentified, was 9 years old.
Carol’s daughter said Abar abused and raped her for 16 years before she told her mother.
“He had threatened me that he would kill my mom; he would kill my stepbrothers; he would kill me,” she said.
Once Carol found out, she filed for divorce from Abar before rape charges were brought against him.
Since Carol made more money than Abar, she was forced to pay alimony—$1,300 a month.
“The judge told me I had no proof. It was my word against him,” said Carol. “He had been raping her since she was little. Since I got married to him.”
She must have actually believed he would kill her mother & siblings. If the mother was paying out that kind of money, she could have had him killed for less... which is what I would have done.
Quote: Justme wrote in post #1CORONA (CBSLA.com) — A mother who was forced to pay spousal support to the ex-husband who was convicted of raping her daughter is speaking out to CBS2.
“Every time I wrote that check, I cried because I felt like I was paying the man that raped my daughter,” Carol Abar told CBS2′s Andrea Fujii.
Carol married Ed Abar in 1991, when her daughter, who wishes to remain unidentified, was 9 years old.
Carol’s daughter said Abar abused and raped her for 16 years before she told her mother.
“He had threatened me that he would kill my mom; he would kill my stepbrothers; he would kill me,” she said.
Once Carol found out, she filed for divorce from Abar before rape charges were brought against him.
Since Carol made more money than Abar, she was forced to pay alimony—$1,300 a month.
“The judge told me I had no proof. It was my word against him,” said Carol. “He had been raping her since she was little. Since I got married to him.”
What was wrong with the girl that at adulthood she didn't stop him?
Sexual abuse leaves mental damage in its wake. She was one of the "walking wounded" and unable to conjure up enough self-esteem to protect herself.
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